On the contrary, I'm agreeing that people need to be able to say "This isn't cool from the player PoV" and the other side needs to be able to say "That's fine, I understand." This takes a bit of distance and maturity from both sides. However, Avalon is notorious for blurring IC and OOC, partially because there is so little RP, and no tradition of character vs player. People insult you OOC if you kill them, MSN is rife and rampant, and quite often you can find a chat room type vibe going on.
My point is that we should not inflict RP on people and force them to unsub (that's a bit silly), but rather people should work on creating a character and seeing the world through the eyes of that pretend person, instead of through their own perspective, which will both make RP easier to happen and allow people to take it more in stride.
Granted, this is a viewpoint several years of playing has given me. Playing long enough helps remind you that it is just a game, and that you aren't as invested in your character as it may seem. Perhaps if elders were stronger with the examples (ie, only conduct OOC talk via tells and messages, etc), kids would find this transition easier. It's MUCH easier to sit back and view things through your character's eyes if you don't have people seeing YOU as linked to your character - the rampant chatting and OOC ensures that link is strong.
My comment about how someone manages to play Avalon at all - I quite honestly mean that. If an emote about a knife slicing a chest open is as sickening as Catlania and Fatalus and so forth claim, they must get nauseated when they fight a mage and die to this text: "Your chest cavity is ripped open by the power of the blast." (or however it's phrased)
Now, they clearly don't want to vomit every time they spar, which is what I was indicating - ie, they are just using these whines about how terrible the RP is as an excuse to attack the people doing the RP. A lame reaction, and a completely OOC one - trying to get Narissa in trouble via messages, whines to gods, and posts on the elders about how I do bad, sickening, destructive RP is a completely OOC reaction to a very IC situation. The reaction was, in the end, solely to my character and her evilness, not any legitimate rant about anything beyond that - ie to IC things. Next time, they should try holding a ceremony to purify him or some religious gathering to annoint fighters in Thakrian blood to give them divine power in their hunt against the corrupt princess or whatever...
I'd just like to point out, in the end, a boring RP session leaves you...bored. An abusive one will quickly get the gods on your ass and you'll likely end up a statue in the Underworld. However, a fighting rampage, or a stripping session against some tiny people - that's where we've not got moderation and maturity. RP just isn't common enough to have abuses going on with it, unlike the unmonitored fighting scene that is usually the cause of people quitting the land.